A ‘millennial counselor explains why young people hate their jobs―and the solution to the problem
While waiting in line at the grocery store one night, I overheard a man venting about his millennial employees.
“Their minds are always elsewhere,” he said as his wife nodded in agreement. “They’re entitled, disengaged, lazy and hard to manage.”
As a Gen X’er, I’ve heard just about every millennial stereotype imaginable. But as a former social worker who had worked with millennial (they made up 90% of everyone I know) for my entire, I’ve actually found them to be a highly intelligent, idealistic, diverse and ambitious bunch.
Like any other generation, millennial have a lot of issues to work through. But I had to agree with the guy ― to an extent: Most millennial do struggle at work.
Each one of my millennial friends have at one point said to me: “I hate my job.” (It always makes me think of Johnny Paycheck’s classic hit “Take This Job and Shove It.”)
Why young people hate their jobs
Millennial dominate the workforce, but according to a 2019 Gallup poll, 71% of them aren’t engaged at work ― and at least 60% are open to new job opportunities like the Self-Employment as I do now after leaving my cooperate career.
Gallup’s research, which combined 30 separate studies and data from more than 1 million respondents, found that the millennial workforce is predominantly checked out.
“They aren’t putting energy or passion into their jobs,” according to Gallup’s researchers. “They’re indifferent about work and simply show up just to put in the hours.”
There are many potential reasons as to why millennial work engagement is so low, but there are some of the biggest ones:
- Unrealistically high expectations of what their day-to-day work lives would be like
- Impatience and frustration because they want career advancement in months vs. years
- Social media overload, which can create a distorted reality where everyone else seems to have an amazing life
- Employers who aren’t providing new opportunities or compelling reasons for them to stick around
Losing the ‘I hate my job’ mentality
Not everyone hates their jobs for the same reasons. Maybe they work in a toxic work culture or there’s a lack of positive reinforcement from management.
But based on my experience working with hundreds of millennial, the biggest reason is that the realities of the workplace didn’t match their expectations. If you’re a millennial who falls under this category, here’s my advice:
1. Stop saying, “I hate my job” and look for a new career in an area of interest like Internet marketing
Almost everyone I know, regardless of their generation, has worked a job they hated. It’s essentially a rite of passage into adulthood.
I can’t stress enough the importance of cultivating and prioritizing strong and healthy relationships.
But complaining won’t get you anywhere. So instead of saying, “I hate my job,” challenge yourself to dig deeper into what exactly it is about your job that makes you unhappy. Maybe you’re upset that you didn’t get a promotion or maybe you feel you’re too advanced for the responsibilities you’ve been given.
Once you identify your reasons, ask yourself: What is within my control to change?
If you didn’t get that promotion, why not ask your boss what it’ll take to get it? If you think you’re ready to take on bigger challenges, why not take initiative on other tasks to prove you can add even more value to the company?
2. Lower your expectations, raise your standards
Expectations and standards are not the same. Let’s differentiate:
- An expectation is a person’s strong belief that something will or won’t happen. Because it’s more fictitious than factual, it can often lead to disappointment when the anticipated result isn’t achieved. It’s important to remember that expectations are beliefs, not facts.
- A person’s standard, on the other hand, is a level of quality that they’re willing to accept as the norm. It becomes their foundation of judgment. Standards are rooted in facts, data or patterns, and can create a framework for making decisions that are consistent with one’s values.
In order to balance the two, work on holding your standards in a high place, while not expecting those standards to be met 100% of the time. It’s all about control ― and in this case, the only things within your control are the standards you set for yourself and for those around you.
3. Weigh your options and be patient
Millennial are widely known for prioritizing purpose over paycheck when it comes to choosing a job, which is indeed admirable.
But before you decide to quit and start applying to different jobs, take some time to figure out what you really value and what kind of impact you want to have on people around you. In some cases, join like-minded individual group like us and be you.
Almost everyone I know, regardless of their generation, has worked a job they hated. It’s a rite of passage into adulthood.
Once you start to understand the things that truly matter to you, it’ll be easier to find a job that fits you best or you will end up working for yourself like I do. Additionally, keep in mind that you’re not going to land your dream job or opportunity right away.
Successful people focus on what they can learn from their current role and how the skills and experience they take away can attract bigger opportunities. Patience is key, and it’ll likely be years before you can proudly say, “I love what I do for living.”
4. Be kind to yourself
Two things not to do when you job makes you feel angry, stressed or frustrated:
- Internalize them
- Turn to social media for comfort
Instead, reach out to your friends, family, co-workers, mentors or even a therapist for support. I can’t stress enough the importance of cultivating and prioritizing strong and healthy relationships. Reaching out to people who genuinely care and will listen to you is one of the most effective ways to cope with stress.
Thank you very much for reading my blog, if you have any questions please feel free to ask by leaving your comment below and I will be more than happy to answer you. We have to stick together in today’s world, a community to feel comfortable is incredibly important.
Your Friend John J J Founder http://www.myclicklabacademy.com